Fathers

Today as I was walking around in the Dunes, I was thinking on Father’s day and how we honor those in our lives who have filled the role of a Father – whether a biological Father, a grandfather, a step-dad, adopted father, spiritual father, mentor, or just someone who was instrumental in life in a fathering role.

My Dad left earth in 2010. I can’t even believe this will be 5 years in November. So many days I miss his voice – our talks and his wisdom. It was a void in my life that I never imagined I would have that early. But I was blessed to have him in my life for almost 38 years and have such confidence that I will see him in the day when Christ makes his appearance in the sky, and all the saints who have gone before will be traveling with him. But until that day, I still find myself missing his stories, and wishing I could stop by the house and spend a few hours in the shop talking or one more trip up the trail that leads to the lake… Dad taught me so many things – too numerous to list, but the things I learned most were how to work hard and not give up – perseverance, respecting and enjoying creation, servanthood, and an unwavering faith in Jesus Christ.

The year before, my Papa passed away. I could also write a long post about him as he was such an influence in my life. Incredibly organized (see where I get that!) and detailed, by example Papa taught me about generosity, the importance of family, laughter, and never quitting. I miss him.

Bob Deering – for years you have been my pastor and friend, but in many respects, especially since Dad died, you have taken on that role of a trusted father figure. I am privileged to work with you and have you in my life. Bob has taught me so much about passion for Jesus, and his encouragement to press in and pursue the heart of God has forever changed my spiritual walk. He provided a place (Voice) where I came and experienced worship like I had never experienced, where I was able to get healing from old wounds that had me in bondage, where I felt family and community away from my blood family, and where I have been able to serve and walk out my calling. Bob has taught me issues of the heart… which is good for a cognitive guy like me smile emoticon

Denny Rogers – since 2006 I have lived with Denny and his family in two different basement apartments. They have adopted me as a son and I am part of their family. Denny has been through all kinds of physical health issues – from cancer to a heart transplant. This man has shown me that despite incredible pain and physical suffering, that it is possible to maintain a love for Jesus Christ and a faith that is unwavering. Nurses and doctors alike can testify of this man’s ability to be gracious and kind in the midst of his own pain in the hospital room. This last round (chemo) was a tough time, but I watch Denny continue to display the heart of Jesus in how he lives. He is incredibly generous – with his finances, his home and hospitality, and his time. I have learned much from watching his example.

Scott Starkweather – even though Scott and I are close in age, in many ways he was one of those who filled a role in my life after Dad died. With practical advice that I would ask Dad, Scott became one of those I would go to. He has a way of knowing the stuff that no one really ever knows how to do. And then our talks about interesting spiritual principles that correlate with the physical situation remind me so often of my talks with Dad.

Tom Dunn – Tom was my boss at Grace for the time I was there. He taught me to believe in myself – to have confidence – when I never thought I would be the director of a department. He saw something in me and trusted me to do a job. He wasn’t a micromanager and let me run with it. He also taught me to waterski, and I remember that day very fondly!

There are many other men who have influenced me in positive ways and who have mentored me, fathered me, and sown into me. My thoughts and thanks are with them.

To those who are fathers of sons and daughters…. you are so blessed. take the moments you have with your children and cherish them – life goes by so fast. Instill those principles of love and truth, and write it on their hearts, and they will be those who rise up and call you blessed.